For nearly two decades this site has made the case that the Christian scriptures do not teach 'Abstinence until marriage' — they teach a better framework. 'Abstinence until adulthood' — a standard rooted in the text itself, not in institutional convenience. One that genuinely protects children and those without agency, while refusing to burden mature, responsible adults with a standard God did not intend nor do the Scriptures require.
If you've been hurt by purity culture, you are not alone, and you are not broken. There are resources here for you.
If you're a pastor, teacher, or parent looking for a Biblical sexual ethic that is realistic and honest — you're in the right place too.
Hurting or questioning?
What happened to you is not your fault. Purity culture caused real harm — and the theology behind it doesn't hold up. You're in the right place.
Pastor, teacher, or parent?
You don't have to choose between Scripture and honesty. A better framework exists — grounded in the text, not in fear. You're in the right place.
Why Listen to Me?
I've seen purity theology cause real harm up close — the kind institutions would rather not discuss. I'm not a scholar or a pastor. I just lack the common sense to quietly walk away while our modern day scribes and pharisees twist Christian scripture into a club — and then use it to harm people in the name of Jesus. I have no wild past to excuse — I'm an otherwise boring, straight-laced guy. I'm not a martyr, white-knight, or hero either. But I'm willing to speak truth others simply can't or won't.
- Years inside singles ministries — watching purity theology play out in real people's lives, up close.
- A published novel — exploring these themes through narrative, not just argument.
- A live debate — arguing this case against an apologist on a podcast, on the record.
- A white paper — in which five entirely different AI platforms independently exposed the same weaknesses in purity culture's core proof-texts.